Was watching the news earlier this evening when a segment about Robin Padilla confessing his love for Mariel Rodriguez came out. In the previous weeks, I believe the news about the latter was about her recently breaking up with her boyfriend of more than two years(?). Not sure about the figures, but I was just contemplating on how eager she was to jump into a new relationship when she just ended a long one with his former beau.
A friend of mine had also been sharing a similar scenario. No, not the part where a Robin Padilla-type of guy confessing his love for her; but the part of jumping to another relationship after being just days or weeks or even a few months of breaking away from a long-time relationship. It was very hard for my friend since she’s been juggling a lot of things in her head right now, and a serious thing as your boyfriend falling for another girl so quick is the last thing she wanted. It was late night and I convinced her to spill it out or she might explode. I came up with a really, really bad advice but I said that if her douche of a boyfriend can find a new one, then she should too. A classmate back in high school once said to me that a cure to a broken heart is to fill the fresh cracks immediately with the first person you came across. I was reminded of that, and was silly of me to give that lame advice.
Been noticing a lot of similar things around me since. Everyone’s seems to be rushing to have a new boyfriend/girlfriend after breaking up with their relationships. I’ve never been into a relationship so I am not really in the authority to give advise or even have an opinion about it. But this is my blog so I guess it’s ok to share my thoughts on the things I’ve learned from observing and listening to stories of friends about relationships.
Rebound relationships is always unfair. Especially to the new person who’ll be catching you from your delirious fall that was caused by your former boyfriend/girlfriend. Then I realized, maybe some of us are just in a relationship for the sake of having one. Or we are jumping into one relationship to another just to fill the gap, and the minute the person we’re really eyeing gets available, we’ll go straight to it without even contemplating what was shared with the former flame. Don’t get me wrong, but saying one loved their ex-es or whatever it was you call them, and then diving into another relationship so quickly to forget about them is a bit hazy. I’d have a different opinion about it if it had been months, but days or a few weeks? Enlighten me, please.
Then I thought ego might be in the center of all this rebound thing. But still, who am I to have these opinions?